The New Age Gentleman: A Blend of Classic and Modern Traits

What Qualities Define Today’s Gentleman? How Do They Compare to Earlier Days? One Quality Has Been Found Only Recently

GENTLEMANLY HABITS

By John Smith

5 min read

smiling man standing near green trees
smiling man standing near green trees

Some abilities, like being polite and considerate, are still highly regarded, but others that used to be deemed crucial may no longer be. In this blog post, we'll discuss both the traditional abilities that a gentleman must possess and a skill that, while it may not have been viewed as essential in the past, is now expected of modern gentlemen.

Etiquette and good manners

A gentleman's good manners and etiquette have always been necessary. The cultivation of good manners and etiquette for a classic gentleman was a crucial component of their upbringing and education. 

This usually entailed training in social graces, table manners, and appropriate behavior in various social contexts. Young guys were taught how to behave in the presence of ladies, how to dress correctly, and how to treat seniors and others of higher social status. They were also taught the value of being courteous, well-spoken, and respectful to others.

A well-mannered guy is respectful and courteous to others, uses polite language, and exhibits excellent table manners. Given the growing focus on social and emotional intelligence, these abilities are just as vital now as they were in the past, if not more so.

Men today learn how to be respectful, well-mannered, and polite in a variety of ways, including:

  • childcare centers, schools, and colleges offer education and training;

  • observing the examples set by their parents, teachers, and other significant figures in their lives;

  • books, journal articles, and other materials that address these subjects. Through online courses, films, and tutorials, the development of technology has also made it simpler for guys to access information about proper behavior and etiquette.

But it's crucial to keep in mind that genuine manners and etiquette originate from the heart and must be continuously exercised to become a habit.

man sitting on mountain cliff facing white clouds rising one hand at golden hour
man sitting on mountain cliff facing white clouds rising one hand at golden hour

Communication

A gentleman's communication abilities are essential in both personal and professional relationships. A modern gentleman must be able to properly explain his or her opinions and ideas, listen carefully, and bargain effectively. Communication abilities may not have been considered necessary for a gentleman in the past.

Traditionally, a gentleman was expected to be discreet and to speak only when necessary, and his deeds were frequently more significant than his words. Furthermore, the primary mode of communication was letter writing, which gave more time to thoroughly analyze one's words.

Effective communication is regarded as a key ability for success in today's culture, as technology has connected the world and people are expected to communicate successfully in a variety of contexts, both personal and professional.

Personal grooming

A gentleman's pride in his appearance and attention to detail were traditionally thought to be demonstrated by his grooming. It still plays a crucial role in becoming a modern gentleman today. A well-groomed man exudes self-assurance, professionalism, and confidence.

Because soap, shampoo, and other personal care items were either less accessible or less efficient than they are today, men's grooming in the past was frequently simpler than what is expected of a modern gentleman today. There were fewer alternatives for grooming products, haircuts, and clothing, as well as more basic grooming instruments and procedures. In the past, people generally had lower standards for personal grooming and were less concerned with always looking presentable and well-groomed. 

However, compared to today's adaptability and broader standards, attire for many occasions was more formal and elaborate. The traditional gentleman focused on keeping himself clean, dressing appropriately, and practicing simple grooming rituals like shaving and clipping facial hair. Traditional grooming items including straight razors, safety razors, and boar bristle brushes were frequently used by classic gentlemen. They also frequently utilized grooming supplies including pomades, aftershave, and shaving cream.

On the other hand, modern gentlemen are expected to have a deeper grasp of personal grooming, which involves keeping up with good cleanliness and being knowledgeable about skincare and grooming products. A modern gentleman should also take care to look his best overall and pay attention to how he presents himself.

white labeled bottle near brown brush
white labeled bottle near brown brush

This may entail paying close attention to small things like hairstyle, jewelry, and clothes fit. Nowadays, men can choose from a greater variety of grooming tools and items, such as electric razors, multi-blade cartridge razors, and beard trimmers. They also have access to more grooming supplies, such as moisturizers, face washes, and scrubs for the face. 

Although modern grooming tools and products are more convenient and efficient, some people prefer traditional grooming tools and products for their personal flair or because they believe they deliver a closer or more realistic shave or grooming experience. Personal grooming and dressing are still regarded as necessary for a gentleman today, but the standards have loosened slightly and there is greater freedom in terms of what is deemed suitable for various occasions.

Financial literacy

Financial literacy is becoming an increasingly crucial ability for the modern gentleman. The capacity to efficiently manage one's finances, make informed financial decisions, and prepare for the future is crucial in today's fast-paced, highly competitive environment. Financial literacy may not have been considered a necessary talent for a gentleman in the past, but it is now important for establishing long-term financial stability and success.

Traditionally, a gentleman's financial management abilities were concentrated on the management of his or her personal or family fortune. Gentlemen of that era were frequently affluent landowners, merchants, or members of the nobility, and as such, they were expected to be informed about money, investing, and wealth management. This frequently entailed monitoring the administration of their estates, investments in land, enterprises, or other assets, as well as being able to budget and manage their resources successfully.

white and brown concrete house near green trees during daytime
white and brown concrete house near green trees during daytime

Today, being a gentleman is defined by his gallantry and behavior rather than his wealth. Modern guys are expected to be knowledgeable about personal finance, including budgeting, saving, and investing. 

With the growth of technology, there are various tools and resources available to aid modern gentlemen in correctly managing their finances, such as Internet banking, investment platforms, and personal finance software.

Digital literacy

Digital literacy was once unheard of but is now considered essential for a modern gentleman. While older classic gentlemen concentrated on literature, history, and philosophy, today's capacity to use technology, communicate effectively in a digital world, and comprehend the impact of technology on society is becoming increasingly vital. 

Whether for personal or professional reasons, a contemporary gentleman must be at ease with technology and understand how to utilize it efficiently.

MacBook Pro on table beside white iMac and Magic Mouse
MacBook Pro on table beside white iMac and Magic Mouse

Conclusion

In conclusion, while the must-have abilities of a modern gentleman have developed through time, the basic values and ideas that characterize a gentleman have not. A genuine gentleman is courteous, well-mannered, and committed to ongoing self-improvement. A contemporary gentleman should always try to be the best version of himself, whether that be by polishing conventional abilities or creating new ones.